People are trying to figure out how to be the it boy or girl, you know, the oh so-popular-kind-of-people, they read books about human interaction, how to attract opposite sex(or same sex, depends on your orientation)
But the funny thing about attraction is, you do not have any control over who you attracted to, vice versa.
People who are showing off their money, will attract materialistic people, funny people will attract people who likes funny people, it is simple
No matter how nice you are to this person you like, if you do not have the thing that person likes, hell naw they won't even think about you as an mating option
All you need to do is be out there and hava as much interaction with people as possible, even though you hate going out, and then one day, may you will find a person you like and like you back